sexism is robert downey jr getting arrested and spending 4 months in jail for smoking heroin, cocaine, having an unregistered gun, and breaking into people’s homes and sleeping in their beds BUT coming back to open arms and being cast a superhero role model for young kids
but rihanna gets called a slut and a bad influence for smoking a little kush and wearing a sexy outfit????????
- Melissa Harris-Perry, Why caring for children is not just a parent’s job (via msnbc)
True, and based on my experience and my readings, this attitude of “caring for children is everybody’s job” is considered normal in much of the non-Western world. Certainly in China, where extended clans and communities dote over babies and help educate toddlers without a second thought and mothers feel perfectly comfortable handing off their babies to a relative or friend or neighbor while conducting some other business for the afternoon.
What’s ironic is that simultaneously in Asian culture, Buddhist monks and nuns and renunciates and mendicants and sages — who make a life commitment to not have children — are well-respected by society and by their communities, rather than being considered eccentric bachelors or crazy cat ladies for such a choice. Many of our most important historical figures and folk heroes and martial arts legends are people who have renounced marriage and children. Yet it’s traditional for children to spend time playing with monks and nuns in their communities, especially during certain festivities. Children refer to monks and nuns as “uncle” and “auntie” and the nuns and monks pass on to those children certain knowledge and values, how to make an offering with your whole heart, how to bow, managing your energy and emotion, patience, self-cultivation, humility, discipline, wisdom. It’s a whole different system.
Familial love isn’t restricted to just parent-child relationships, and it really bothers me that that’s how people seem to think it ought to be =/
that men believe they are entitled to “mourn” angelina jolie’s double mastectomy? how are we defined when we believe we own a woman - simply because she is a public figure - enough to discuss her fears, genetics, body, and decisions.
there’s more to this than “oh, brad’s gonna fuck the nanny.”
this is about men believing they own women and girls. it’s more than a mastectomy.